Safe sex is not just for teenagers it is for people of all
ages. AIDS is on
the rise in the senior community. It is important for women and men to
be
aware of this important health issue. Too many times women have asked
their male lovers to wear a condom.
Here are some excuses men have given to women why they should not wear a
condom:
1." I can lose my erection if I have to put one on."
2. "There is less sensation when I wear a condom."
3. " I don't need one because I have always been in a monogamous
relationship before I met you."
4. "What's wrong, don't you trust me?"
5. "I can't enjoy sex wearing a rubber."
6. "Putting a condom on will interrupt our love making."
7."They're messy and there is no friction."
8. "We don't need it you're too old to get pregnant."
9. ‘Trust me."
10. "I used them when I was in the service why should I use them
now."
The topic of using a condom while making love can be very difficult to
discuss with your lover. Many women are afraid if they insist upon their
lover to wear a condom they will leave. Women have to learn to take charge
of their body and their sexual lives. You can have a very high self esteem
and feel good about yourself, but somehow when it comes to asking some men
to wear a condom we lose our power. We allow him to give us the
excuses and we accept them and than worry after. It is the same concept when
we were young not to use precautions for getting pregnant. It won't
happen to me: than a child was born nine months later.
Communication is the key to get your lover to use a condom. Make it
fun.
Some women are embarrassed to buy condoms. Buying some condoms is
acceptable practice. Drugstores have them in the front of the counters (You
don't even have to ask.) They come in all sizes, colors, textures and
taste. Carry them with you if you are going to make love outside of your
home. Or have them close to where you are going to make love.
Ask your lover if they have children and how would he feel if they have
unsafe sex.
Explain that AIDS is on the rise in the senior
community and it is important to you if he wears a condom. Explain
that there are exciting ways that you can still stimulate him to keep his
erection. Most of all talk about the issues; do not quarrel about it.
Here is an interesting thought. If someone asks you
to have unsafe sex, it means he isn't worrying about how you feel or how you
will feel the next day.
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