Sex is nature's
built in system to keep us young and active well into our senior
years. Sex is a way to rejuvenate our bodies: It releases endorphins
which are painkilling and mood-enhancing brain chemicals that make us
feel good.
Unfortunately, because of illness, divorce, loss of a loved one, or
being unable to find a sexual partner to make love too, we find
ourselves alone too often. Society has discouraged solo play for
centuries. Many cultures went as far as listing all the ills that
masturbation would cause: mental illness, hairy palms, asthma,
epilepsy, heart murmurs, etc. THESE ARE ALL FALSE!
Why did these beliefs evolved? It is a natural instinct to create a
society that will be fruitful and multiply. . The concept against
solo play began in the bible, with the story of Onan in Genesis. Onan
practiced coitus interruptus (withdrawing before ejection) so that he
would not impregnate his brother's widow, as customs and religious law
dictate he do. Over the centuries in western civilization this ban was
never really lifted. For years society told us that if we practice
solo play we would have terrible things happen to us.
It is time to take a step back and realize that our bodies can give us
great pleasure, and keep us healthy. Solo fantasy can be very helpful
to the aging process. Stop feeling guilty and dirty about solo
fantasy. Relax and enjoy and let the endorphins be released, you will
feel great.
Techniques for solo play:
If you never explored solo play here are some helpful tips to get
started. Find a time and a place where you can be alone and feel at
ease. You might like a shower or bath. Surround yourself with whatever
will give you pleasure; soft lighting, music, pictures, erotic
books/magazines and videos. Undress and begin to explore your body
from head to toe. Every inch of your body needs to be explored, self
touch is very important in solo play (and if you should find a partner
it enhances the sensuality of sex).
Female Solo play: Clitoral stimulation is the key to good solo play.
Hands are a good start to explore the clitoris and to have an orgasm.
However, some women are unable to obtain an orgasm with this method.
That is why vibrators were invented, to give a woman extra
sensation on her clitoris. Many times women are to embarrassed to
purchase one, an electric toothbrush maybe helpful without the brush.
Male solo play: Stroke your inner thighs, anal area and scrotum. The
scrotum is very sensitive to touch. Stroke your penis (you may want to
try Vaseline on your hands) Get into a steady rhythm with your body
and you will achieve solo play, and have an orgasm.
Remember there is no wrong or right way with solo play. The key here
is get rid of your guilt feelings: no one ever died from solo
play. Enjoy what you do to your body and let your thoughts take you to
new heights of pleasure. |
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