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What
about the size of my penis?
Many men think that their penis is too small. This notion may
come from the days when young adolescent boys talked about the length
of their penises, or from hearing a talk show host describing how big
a penis should be, or from porno flicks. In the porno industry, tricks
are used such as lighting and camera angles to make the stars penises
look bigger than they are. The knowledge that their penis is small can haunt
a man throughout his lifetime. The thought that a woman needs a large
penis can hurt the intimacy of having a great sexual relationship.
All men are not created equal. This statement is also true for
the anatomy of one's penis. The penis has certain
characteristics when not erect. Some may be longer, shorter, broader
or wider, some are curved, may bend to the right or bend to the left,
some point upward when erect, some downward, some just straight out.
Although a penis may differ in size or shape, there is less variation
when hard, because a smaller soft penis will increase more in size
during an erection than a softer large penis. Nonetheless,
there is still some variation but there is nothing that can be done
about that. What matters is the size of your self esteem, and the size
of your heart and brain, not your penis size.
Many men feel worse about their size as they age because they think
that their penis is shrinking. What actually happens is that they gain
weight and the added layers of abdominal fat obscure the base of the
penis, which used to be visible. In fact there is no significant
difference in size, especially when the penis is erect. However, when
the man thinks he is inadequate his performance can suffer.
Men assume that a bigger penis is better and is what women prefer.
Here is where the importance of communication comes in to a
relationship. Women think much less about penis size than do
men. What enhances the size of a penis to a women, is having a
man listen to their sexual needs and wants. Men must learn the
importance of communication with their mate. One may have a
large penis, however, if there is no foreplay involved in the intimacy
of sex, the large size of one's penis does not matter. It
may be more of a turn off than a turn on.
The penis and the rest of the body never loses their ability for
pleasure. What should be going on in your mind is not how big my
penis may be, but what wonderful things I can do to please my partner
with my penis, my hands and my mouth. The penis is just one
instrument of a male that enables a man and a women to unite and
experience sexual passion.
Think small and you are small; think big and you are big. Having
inhibitions about the size of one's penis can be harmful to having a
healthy relationship. This issue may arise in elderly men, when
their spouse dies and they have to start a new intimate relationship.
Don't be afraid to engage in sexual intimacy. It is important for your
health and emotional well-being to do so. Keep your self-esteem
high: communicate your feelings with your partner. |
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