Dear June ( as seen in the Queens Courier)

Dear June:

 

My mother is undergoing chemo therapy for breast cancer.  Two years ago I lost a sister to ovarian cancer.  My father's father had male breast cancer.  Every time I take my mother for her chemotherapy I have to talk to this obnoxious nurse.  She keeps insisting for my family to do a genetic tree regarding cancer and get a test which is called BRCA Analysis.  I don't understand why she is pushing so much.   There are times I want to tell her to mind her own business. Do you know anything about this test? 

 

Dealing with annoying nurse

 

Dear Deal:

 

By getting the knowledge that this obnoxious nurse is offering to you, your risk of breast and ovarian cancer maybe lower.  The BRCA Analysis is a special DNA test for breast and ovarian cancer.  It is only specific for BRCA 1 and BRCA 2 mutations only.  There are people who are carriers of these mutations and don't know it.  This test is a simple blood test.  However, you should get more information about what this test entails and the ramifications of the results, before you get tested.

 

Here are the guidelines of who should be tested:

  • Personal or family history of breast cancer before age 50
  • Personal or family history of ovarian cancer at any age
  • Personal history of having 2 or more primary diagnosis of breast and/or ovarian cancer
  • Male breast cancer
  • Personal history of being Ashkenazi (Eastern European Jewish) descent with a history or family history of breast or ovarian cancer at any age; the risk of BRCA mutations is increased in this population.
  • Persons with relatives with a confirmed BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutation

 

PS If you have any concerns about this test you can e-mail me at RomanticSeniors @aol.com

 

Dear June: 

 

I am writing to you because you have experience dealing with the senior population.  I move into a lovely neighborhood in Queens.  There were some days that have been very hot this summer.  An elderly couple lives next door to me.  It appears that they sunbathe in the nude.  There back yard is closed off so the neighbors cannot see them.  However, I can see them from my bedroom window.  They just lie there in the sun every day without any clothes on.  I want to say something to them, but I am embarrassed.

                                                                                                                      

 

Embarrassed in Queens

 

Dear Embarrassed:

 

Do you know that North Americans need more exposure to the Sun?  Scientists have discovered that you need sunlight to process Vitamin D in our bodies.  This Vitamin helps to reduce the risk of getting cancer.   If you are bothered by their nudity don't look.  They have a lifestyle and you should get a life.

 

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Dear June:
 
On mother's day my daughter gave me a gift to the S-factor.  It is a class on the art of learning how to strip.  I went for the introduction class. It was a wonderful experience.  They spoke about "My flower" and what I should do for me.  When I got home my husband wanted me to show him what I had learned.  I explained to him that what I did in the class was very personal.  I will show him when I am ready.  He was very upset with me.  Now, when I want to have sex with him, he said he has to think about it.
 
The S-factor woman
 
Dear S-factor woman:
 
The S-factor is a personal experience and a wonderful way to get great exercise.  However, your husband also wanted to take in the experience of the S-factor.  You don't have to show him everything that you learn.  Give him a tease when he says that he has to think about it.  Sometimes a little teasing can be very sensual.
 
Dear June:
 
I dated this wonderful man for almost two years.  We enjoyed many good times together.  We went to Broadway shows, out to dinner, and dancing.  Things were not so great with him when it came to performing in the bedroom.  I did not object because everything else was great.  I took matters in my own "hands" regarding sexual intimacy.  I was satisfied and I thought he was too.
The other day he asked me if I had a low libido, because I never pushed for him to perform in the bedroom.  I told him that my hands were very sufficient satisfying my needs and I did not care about his performance.  He got insulted and walked out on me.  Now he is not talking to me.
 
Matters in my own "hands"
 
Dear Matters:
 
It appears that you did not include him in all the good times you had over the years while you were dating.  Both of you did not communicate your needs and desires of what you wanted in a relationship.  Obviously, it was not a good relationship if he questioned that you had a low libido.  Send him flowers with a simple note saying you would like to speak with him.  Explain to him that you are still very attractive to him and maybe you can start the relationship over again.  If that does not work you still can take matters into your own "hands."
 
 Dear June:
 
I am crazy about the man I am dating.  He is tall, dark, and handsome. Every time I see him I feel my knees start to shake.  However, when I nuzzle up against his ears to whisper sexy words, I get ear hairs.  It seems that he has more hairs on his ears than on his head.  I just adore him, but I can't tell him how I get turned off by his ear hairs.
 
Upset by Fuzzy Wuzzy
 
Dear Upset:
 
You can always start with the truth.  If you adore him that much just say to him that he must cut his ear hairs.  Or, you can make an appointment to go with him the next time he gets a haircut. Suggest to the Barber to please pay special attention to the hair on your partner's ears.  If all else fails have a scissors ready the next time, you want to whisper something sexy into his ear.
 

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